Reciprocity is more than just simple give and take – it’s about co-creating environments and conditions that work for all involved.
There are many examples of reciprocity in nature – take the hermit crab and the anemone, for example.
The hermit crab lives in vacated shells of whelks or other mollusc. One species carries a large pink anemone on its shell so that when octopi or fish – who like to feed on the hermit crab – approach, the anemone shoots out it brilliantly coloured tentacles, and stings the intending predators.
This is a good example of living co-operation as the crab returns the compliment to the anemone, which feeds on the droppings and discarded food of the crab. When the crab needs to move to a larger home, it gently detaches the anemone and takes it along.
In human society, just as in nature, reciprocity creates an actual environment. Once this environment is created all manner of new and wonderful things can happen and the co-operation we need to learn in order to survive and prosper will get a real chance to take hold.
Apart from the obvious, the difference between us and hermit crabs with their anemone companions is that we have free will. We get to decide what to do, and in our efforts to do what is best for ourselves we can think that acting only from self-interest will be the most advantageous. This isn’t true.
Like the anemones and the crabs we share our planet. Whether we like it or not we are interconnected. As well as being undeniably cousins according to our genome, we are all now living in a world that is becoming increasingly smaller. We are very much a hugely extended family, living together in the same place, interconnected even when we don’t get on.
Wouldn’t it be easier to just work out how to get along?
When we listen to the Egoic mind . . . we feel separate and alone and fearful.
When we connect with the NOW . . . inner peace, joy, and connection surface and we realize that we are ONE with the source of all.
As soon as people “wake up” to the truth of who they are . . . they start to live in harmony with others.
Excellent points, Nancy – ironically it may be only when we learn who we are is it possible to forget ourselves and get on with life.
“co-creating environments and conditions that work for all involved” :CO-CREATING being the most inspiring and energizing phrase for me here today. Not only do these co-created environments “work”, they in turn create realities, tools, victories beyond our previous imaginations. See today’s post at http://zendictive.wordpress.com about the building of the Brooklyn Bridge!
So true – that is the point really in co-created environments – they are emergent and therefore endlessly surprising and productive. Thanks for the referral to the post about the Brooklyn Bridge – amazing, thanks.
Excellent post! From thoughts to matter, there isn’t anything in the universe that is not based on exchange…